摘要

电影《别告诉她》讲述一个华人家庭的奶奶被诊断患了癌症，但家人选择隐瞒奶奶，然而在纽约长大的碧莉认为奶奶应该知道自己病情的严重性。本文的目的是通过分析电影中中美文化的差异以及产生差异的原因来得到相应的启示。

本文由以下五部分组成：

前言部分简要介绍本论文的选题背景及目的，国内外研究状况和相关领域中已有的研究成果，课题的研究方法和研究内容。

第二部分论述电影中反映的中美文化差异，其中包括中美教育方式差异，中美价值观差异以及中美宴客礼仪差异。第三部分分析电影中反映的中美文化差异的原因。第四部分是从电影中得到的启示。

结论部分分析电影要表达的深层含义并就社会话题表达自己的观点。中国家庭应该改变严格的传统家庭教育模式；客观看待中美两国的价值观；中美礼仪文化的逐渐融合是必然的趋势。

关键词：文化差异，教育方式，价值观，宴客礼仪，文化融合

Table of Contents

Abstract I

摘要 II

Chapter 1 Introduction 1

Chapter 2 The Cultural Differences Between China and America Reflected in the Movie 3

2.1 Different Ways of Family Education Between China and America 3

2.1.1 The Autocratic Education of Billie’s Mother 3

2.1.2 The Democratic Education of Billie’s Father 4

2.2 Different Values Between China and America 4

2.2.1 Billie's Family Valuing Harmony 5

2.2.2 Billie Valuing Self-feeling 5

2.3 Different Banquet Etiquette Between China and America 6

2.3.1 The Hospitality of Billie's Grandma at the Wedding 6

2.3.2 The Easiness of Billie at the Wedding 7

Chapter 3 The Reasons for Cultural Differences Between China and America Reflected in the Movie 8

3.1 The Reasons for Differences in Family Education 8

3.1.1 The Conservative Consciousness Held by Billie’s Mother 8

3.1.2 The Innovative Consciousness Held by Billie’s Father 9

3.2 The Reasons for the Differences in Values 10

3.2.1 Billie's Family Influenced by Chinese Collectivism 10

3.2.2 Billie Influenced by American Individualism 11

3.3 The Reasons for Differences in Banquet Etiquette 11

3.3.1 Billie's Family Influenced by the Idea of Harmony Between Man and Nature 12

Chapter 4 The Enlightenment From the Analysis of the Cultural Differences Between China and America 14

4.1 Updating the Concept of Family Education 14

4.2 Viewing Chinese and American Values Objectively 15

4.3 Promoting the Gradual Integration of Chinese and American Culture 16

Conclusion 18

Acknowledgments 20

Bibliography 21