摘  要

儿童是祖国的未来，儿童家庭教育关系儿童的方方面面，因此应当重视儿童时期的家庭教育。中国的儿童家庭教育研究起步相对较晚，在实践中也存在一系列问题。通过对国内家庭教育的现状进行调查研究，发现许多中国家长在早期的家庭教育过程中，按照自己的计划安排孩子的发展，往往会为儿童设定不切实际的教育目标，却忽略了儿童的兴趣并打乱儿童自身发展的规律，这种错误的教育方式往往会对孩子的造成严重不良影响。本文参考《童年的秘密》一书中关于幼儿家庭教育的观点，进一步结合中国儿童家庭教育的现状及特点，阐述家长应从密切关注幼儿的敏感期，为孩子提供能促进其发展的适宜环境，客观分析孩子的需要，正确对待与儿童的冲突等几个方面着手，将所犯的错误从无意识领域提升到意识层面上来，并在实践中有意识加以纠正，从而促进儿童的成长。

关键词：童年的秘密；家庭教育；儿童
 
Abstract

Early family education of the children can never be over emphasized since it concerned all aspects of children’s life. Yet family education of children in China begins relatively late with a series of problems in practice. After a survey of its present situation, it is found that many Chinese parents set for children  unrealistic goals, some even beyond the ability of children, in early childhood teaching process in accordance with their plans, and they ignore the interests of children, regardless of the children's development, which may cause severe effect on children. This paper, in reference to the main ideas in a book called the Secret of Childhood, discusses early family education according to its features in present China. The author believes that this book has the following revelations on family education: parents should pay close attention to the sensitive period of children, provide suitable environment for children to promote children's development, analyze needs of the child in an objective way and treat the children's conflict properly. By doing so, they can be aware of their unconscious errors and correct these errors in practice, thus promoting the growth of the children.

Keywords: family education; young children; the secret of childhood

1 Introduction
The author of the Secret of Childhood was Maria. Maria Montessori was born in Italy. She was the first woman medical doctor. The Secret of Childhood was one of her most famous works. British educator praised her as the most outstanding scientist and educator. She has played the most important role in the development of human progress.
1.1 Introduction of the Secret of Childhood
The Secret of Childhood is a worldwide famous work on early childhood education, which gives answers for children’s mystery in early education, and it is beneficial for Chinese early education. Through exploration on the Secret of Childhood and mystery of childhood, parents and teachers can be aware of the essence of children’s development clearly. In addition, the Secret of Childhood introduces many examples. Parents can get inspiration from these specific examples and related theories, and then they can do much effort on overcome all hurdles in long-term education.