摘 要

早在十七世纪，女性语言已经开始被研究了。在19 世纪60年代，女权主义在欧洲和美国繁荣发展。在那个时候出现了很多有名额学者，出版了许多有价值的文献，例如，莱科夫，特拉吉尔，齐默曼等。 在这些学者的作用下，女性的地位得到了提高。
语言和文化是相互,他们互相制约影响着。性别差异作为一种社会文化现象,在语言中得到了一定体现。在跨性别交际中,有着和许多不同像重音，当女性表达一些事情的时候会习惯性的强调一些功能词语来表达感情。发音也是一个方面，语言学家做了一个实验，发现女性发元音比男性更多。另外，词汇，说话方式，说话主题也不相同。在跨性别交际方面，性别文化差异势必导致男性和女性在交际规则、交际风格、心理定势、价值观等方面的差异,为两性之间的交际带来困难。男性的在家里的经济地位变得越来越重要。从几千年一直到现在都是如此。“男主外，女主内”的思想深深地植根于人们的脑海。两性的语言思想差异也就形成了。
两性之间在话语风格方面存在着不少差异,就好像是共同进行着一场游戏的双方却遵循着各自不同的规则。性别语言差异现象是特定的社会文化观和价值观在语言中的反映。性别差异是一种文化差异,跨性别交流是一种跨文化交流。同时我们应培养性别文化差异意识敏感性,尊重各自的交际规律,以便达到有效交际的目的。
  
关键词：性别不同；跨性别交际；语言
 
Abstract

Early in the seventeenth century, women language has been researched. In the 1960s, feminist developed prosperity in Europe and the United States. Many famous scholars disappeared and many valuable works have been published. Such as Lakoff, Trudgill, Zimmerman. Women’s statuses have been improved with the help of these scholars.
Language and culture are interrelated; they are limited and influence each other. Gender difference as a phenomenon of social culture, expressed in language. In cross-gender communication, there are many differences, for example, intonation, when women express something; they are used to emphasizing some functional words to show their emotion. What’s more, pronunciation is also an aspect; linguists did an experience and found that female speakers like to use a higher proportion of prestige forms in their pronunciation than male speakers. By the way, style, topic, vocabulary are also different. In cross-gender language, gender culture difference leads to varieties on the rules of communication, the style of communication, the sense of value and these differences bring many difficulties to gender communication.
From thousands of years to now, men's economic positions at home are becoming increasingly important. Men control outside while women are inside” is deeply rooted in people's minds. At this time, gender difference has been formed.
Gender difference is like that men and women are playing the same game, but it has two totally different rules. Gender difference is a kind of culture difference; cross-gender communication is a kind of cross-culture communication. We should train our sensitive of culture difference, and respect the rule of communication, gender communication will be easy.

Keywords: gender difference; cross-gender communication; language